Below are the three core principles that inform my work and that I hold very dear.
You will at all times be unconditionally accepted and seen
I will accept you, see you, cherish you, and celebrate you however you show up. Unless you are actively putting yourself or me in acute physical, mental, or emotional danger, there is nothing you can say or do that will change that.
Pleasure is our birthright
We all deserve to feel good. Whether or not you believe in a higher power, we have been given bodies capable of generating and experiencing such exquisite feelings of pleasure. To deny ourselves that is akin to denying our very selves. It feels good, and it does good: for us individually, and by extension for the world as a whole. And yet, society (not to mention organized religion) is trying its hardest to convince us that pleasure is wrong (whilst simultaneously keeping us primed to want the same through pop culture, porn, and advertising). Sacred Intimacy is about reclaiming the birthright of pleasure, in a respectful and embodied way, honoring yourself and others.
Everything is an experiment
Openness, curiosity, and play are all deeply embedded within sacred intimacy. The work is deep, but that doesn’t mean it can’t be fun and exciting! Maybe you don’t know what you want. Or maybe you do but you’re worried you might not like it. To be able to interface with these things in an open and non judgemental spirit of experimentation will go a long way towards finding your authentic self and desires. Try something, collect data, see what you can learn from that, and repeat. Taking away an expected outcome frees us up to experience and be with what is happening in the actual moment. And I’ve seen time and time again that the very act of not being attached to a desired outcome in turn creates the space for that outcome to emerge.
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